Education and Emotional Intelligence

How can we put a question to our youth to be advantageous leaders if many of our educators and parents are not? Emotional intelligence helps us to do a strong foundation for making marvelous life decisions. Studies reveal that at best, IQ only contributes about 20 percent to the factors that decide life success, leaving 80 percent to other forces.

We request our youth to graduate from school with the tools valuable to be successful throughout life. Most of us can agree that these expectations are not being met. For example, South Carolina has a dropout rate somewhere between 35 % and 55 %. At a 50% dropout rate, the South Carolina economy is losing $273 million per year in revenue from lost wages, taxes and productivity for only one year of South Carolina high school dropouts. Multiply that by a 30-year lifetime and the costs to the South Carolina economy is $8.19 Billion for one lost class. We can multiply that cost by years of dropouts and then multiply it across the country.

Statistics also point to that high school dropouts are 3.5 times more likely than high school graduates to be arrested and 8 times as likely to be in jail or prison. So when we add in the cost of jails, prisons, alcohol and drug abuse centers and mental institutions, we start to salvage an view of the cost to society of this lost potential.

What is happening with our challenged youth? They feel they are not being heard and well-liked. They are voting with their feet by not completing their education. We have been attempting to fit them into a miniature box of possibilities while they want to expand into the vastness of their potentiality. Instead of hearing the dreams and desires of these challenged yet talented kids, we have been telling them what they are to become. Many youth leave high school and college not gleaming what they want. They may be heart-broken from pursuing their dreams by those who have no dreams. They do not acquire engaged. They do not understand how the work they are doing in school applies to their lives.

In order to acquire the passion of others, we must beget emotional bonds. Brain research shows that all our decisions are made by routing sensory signals through the emotional share of the brain. If there is a compelling event, the brain can literally be hijacked by this most outmoded share of our brain before the thinking brain has a chance to bewitch.

Almost 2/3 of our values and beliefs are formed before the age of five. Our emotional impressions and memories are based on emotions from our past. They develop feelings and feelings get our thoughts. Research has shown that we are over 80% unconscious everyday. In most cases we do not realize that we are making decisions based on beliefs from the past that may or may not apply to the novel status. The device we consider causes our behavior. Our behavior causes responses or reactions from others that either do up or bound down relationships. We then develop successful or unsuccessful outcomes. The resulting cycle is the plan we mediate becomes our habits of plan and these habits of notion become our attitudes.

Attitudes are a key component of emotional intelligence and play a major role in success. We can learn to be mindful and responsible for what we are thinking while making a choice for success thoughts. When we have negative thoughts that recede us away from our goals, we can gawk them and settle differently. Developing a successful attitude becomes the preferred choice when we decide that we are responsible for choosing sure thoughts that fade us closer to our goals.

Another key component of emotional intelligence is building relationships through compassion. We are not islands and we cannot arrive our goals alone. For those children who are not taught how to obtain relationships, they may be ostracized from groups. Many are not taught to be compassionate and do not understand and value each others differences. Children are taught to be competitive and may undermine each other as a matter of habit. All of this carries over into our adult life unless we learn how to overcome our relationship obstacles. However, when we are taught how to beget relationships, we learn to search for the value of each person. Even relationship-challenged youth can learn to purchase with others to help them to enact their goals. It is a fetch bag for everyone interested.

A third key component is to form hope in us and in others by establishing goals. We want and need to have a vision and a purpose in our life. We want to understand what is distinguished to us in the social, mental, physical, ethical, family and career areas of our life. These are the things that net us out of bed in the morning and that give us passion. These things will justify for us what our values are. We can then place what is famous. By setting goals and bright toward them, we glean hope. When we are hopeful, we collect our joy. We can then play a fraction in helping others to be hopeful and to effect their aspirations.

These concepts encourage to gain strong leaders. There is a vast need to educate our students about what it takes to obtain excellent life decisions. This can only be carried out by educators and parents who understand it themselves. So I recount the ask can we really inquire our children to be great leaders if our educators and parents are not? When we do not understand the underlying basis for deciding what is a safe choice and what is a unpleasant choice, we have no way in spot to succor ourselves and others to spy what is exciting ourselves and others closer to the kind of life we want and what is enthralling us further away from it.

The Education and Economic Development Act is a South Carolina law that has a expansive deal of insight. It requires, in addition to several other critical provisions that character education be taught. When we produce our educators into emotionally intellectual leaders with an emphasis on attitude, interpersonal skills and goal achievement, they will recall with students in their dreams and educate them in leadership skills. Then, we will truly have a totally engaged student population who are mindful of their attitudes, compassionate for others and have hope for their future.